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How can we see enemies, friends and well-wisher equally?

PostPosted: Thu May 07, 2009 2:26 pm
by DBB
BG Chapter 6, Verse 9

I did not understand this. How can a person see enemy and friend in the same way? If Arjuna would see his enemies in the same way, then he would not even think of fighting against Kauravas. It is different thing that he changed his minds when he saw his own grandfather and guru in the battlefield. On the other hand, when Srila Prabhupada found out that His wife traded his copy of Bhagawat Gita for tea and biscuit, that incident, on top of many others in the past, made Him leave his family and home forever. That is how we got Krishna all over the world. But when Srila Prabhupada left his family and home due to some unfavourable behaviour of his wife, does that not show contradiction to the above mentioned verse of Bhagawat Gita? I am quite confused. Please kindly help me.

Durga Basnet

Re: How can we see enemies, friends and well-wisher equally?

PostPosted: Tue May 19, 2009 12:23 pm
by admin
All pure devotees work under the dictation of Krishna. they behave separately under the same conditions as per Krishnas desire. But we have to live as per Gita. We have to follow their footsteps in terms of sadhana but not imitate them in day to day life

Re: How can we see enemies, friends and well-wisher equally?

PostPosted: Tue May 26, 2009 2:32 pm
by gauranga
We have relationships within this world. Somebody is my very good
well-wisher, somebody is my friend, and somebody is neither friend nor
enemy. And somebody, madhyastha, mediator, and somebody actually doing some
good ... when you are on the yoga-yukta, when you are in the platform of
transcendence, these distinctions, this friend, enemy, sadhu, saintly and
sinful, will all disappear. No more ... We are just acting, disguised as
father, mother, wife, children, friend, enemy. In a drama, each plays a part
... but off-stage we are all friends. On stage I may say, "Oh, you are my
enemy. I shall kill you," and so on. But when off-stage, we are friends.
Similarly, in this material world, with this dress of the material body, we
are playing on the stage of the material world as enemies, friends, father,
mother, son. I cannot beget any son. It is not possible. I simply beget this

This verse describes the most advanced stages of the yogarudha platform. It
is difficult for even a great sage to give up family attachment, yet Krsna
recommends sama-buddhi: the yogi must be equal to family members, friends
and enemies.
We tend to consider someone who appreciates us as a man of good
discrimination, but view one who doesn’t as envious. Suhrt means a
well-wisher. Mitra is a benefactor; ari a killer. Udasina refers to one who
is neutral. A madhya-stha is an impartial judge—concerned, but neutrally
mediating between belligerents. The dvesya is envious. Bandhu means a
well-wisher. How can we see all such persons equally? It is more difficult
to see these equally than to equally view “pebbles, stones or gold.” If one
is able to achieve this platform, however, his meditation becomes

Re: How can we see enemies, friends and well-wisher equally?

PostPosted: Wed Jun 10, 2009 4:10 pm
by jayesh
hare Krishna my dear friend,
Seeing equally (Samadarshinah)doesn't mean behaving equally(Samavartinah).As spirit souls v r all servants of Krishna & our prime duty in the human life should be to alwayas be engaged in loving service of Krishna & also help others to come to Krishna consciousness. So always keeping this in our mind v should act accordingly to our friends,(socalled) enemies & our well-wishers that is real equal vision.
Your friend,

Re: How can we see enemies, friends and well-wisher equally?

PostPosted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 1:49 am
by Santosh
This is a very good question. The common thread in our day to day dealings is attachment. When the attachment is strong it becomes difficult to act in an equipoised manner. Those who exercise proper vairagya (perfect detachment and not artificial detachment as with mayavadis) are certainly in a very spiritually elevated position.